Moved home to save, extending my stay : personalfinance

I’m making an attempt to reconcile some feedback I’ve heard from shut pals about my resolution to reside at house with my dad and mom till I repay one other ~$50k debt from scholar loans.

My pals have mainly shared that they assume I’m lacking out on being an grownup due to my resolution to maneuver again house after graduating from a grad college final spring. I’m a 30 12 months previous male residing exterior of Seattle. I’ve been relationship my companion for two years now. My companion will begin grad college in August and he or she can be 30 years previous. I’ve ~$100k is scholar mortgage debt left. I make $150k a 12 months. I’ve ~$80k in a brokerage + crypto + money. Psychologically, the debt has a big impact on how I reside each day, so I want to have it paid off in 4-5 years. I reside very frugally day-to-day, however each 4-5 months I make a journey for a marriage or party, and so on.

My unique plan was to reside at house for six months. However with my companion off to grad college I’m fascinated with staying longer to shave off one other $50k. I’ve already paid $40k in 9 months. To fulfill this $50k aim with my present saving posture, I might keep at house till my companion graduates in 2026.

My resolution to maneuver house and get monetary savings just isn’t with out its tradeoffs:

1) I do not see my companion as usually as I like and once I do I’m usually exhausted (we reside about an hour aside and I do a lot of the commuting). This has brought about some stress within the relationship, however finally she helps me making the very best resolution for our collective future collectively

2) I see pals about as soon as a month as a result of it’s such an effort to plan and set up something

3) I haven’t got a full routine inbuilt and lack independence since I do not prepare dinner or do something actually at house

I’ve lived by myself earlier than and completely loved it. I’m making an attempt to inform myself to remain the course, however it’s troublesome when everybody round me (together with myself at instances) is telling I want to chop the ambilocal twine.

Does anybody have any phrases of motivation or tales to share to present me some perspective? I’m additionally comparatively snug at house and do not know if I’m actually at house as a result of “life” is simpler this manner. Why this worries me is that I do know I’ll all the time be capable to discover an excuse to remain at house and “save”. I am nervous if I hold shifting the aim submit, I will be 35 and at house and lacking out on “maturity”. Frankly, I do really feel like a baby in even within the work place and I do not know if it has to do with a few of this background stuff.